Relationships

MM All,

A lot happened this week. On a personal level I visited a friend. Wonder about her sometimes. She is divorcing her husband. A real idiot. His family never liked her and made that plain. Blasted fool started to listen to his mother. Now he has decided to leave her and move back home. Well I guess he is a mommies boy after all.

My mother tried to interfere in my relationship once. And I shut that down quick. As an adult we make our own decisions. Right, wrong, or indifferent as adults we make our own way through life. Not our parents or family members. When I am angry I tend to be very vocal. My voice can carry for a distance. My dear mother caught it from me. She didn't talk to me for two weeks. My mothers usual way of saying am mad and leaving you be for a while.

Fine by me. However she has treated me a an adult since then. I discuss things with her more as one adult to another, than as an adult child with a parent.

How many of you have seen this? A presumable adult over the age of 21 having a discussion with his/her parent.

Parent: "I just don't see what you see in her/him? I think (s)he is so wrong for you.."

Adult child: "but I love her/him..."

If your an adult and your parent doesn't approve of your significant other. Or is concern. Ok recogize the concern. Maybe something is there or it might not be. Not I love her..

When my mother says something like that to me I ask her what don't you like about the person I am with. It's called conversation between adults. Cutting the apron strings can be difficult, but it's necessary.

There is life after cutting apron string. Though you no longer can blame your parents for your life when things go south. You made the decisions. Not them. And a big plus, when things go right. Guess who takes the credit?

Parents are going to be a part of our lives. We should cherish them and listen, but not allow them to dictate our lives as adults. They have made their live and made their mistakes and had their triumphs.

It is your time to live your life. Not your parents. But do as you want. Let someone one tell you how to live your life. Here is a question for those of you who let your parents treat you like a small child. Who is going to tell you what to do after they are gone?

Your spouse that your parents approve of? I know some "men" that let their wives dictate to them. As well as some "woman" who allow their men do the same. If that is what you want.. Well what ever floats your boat.

Personally, I want a person in my life to be a friend, confidant, lover, an equal. I need a person who can stand at my side. Not in front or behind me. I have met such a person. We have been together now for over six years.

We have an adult relationship. She knows better than to "mommy" me. Just as I wouldn't treat her as child.

It can be difficult to be an adult. But the benefits outway the negative. My advice to you is simple as it is difficult. Live your life and be who you are.

Blessed Be
Kathwynn

Blessed Be