MM All,
A lot happened this week. On a personal level I visited a friend. Wonder about her sometimes. She is divorcing her husband. A real idiot. His family never liked her and made that plain. Blasted fool started to listen to his mother. Now he has decided to leave her and move back home. Well I guess he is a mommies boy after all.
My mother tried to interfere in my relationship once. And I shut that down quick. As an adult we make our own decisions. Right, wrong, or indifferent as adults we make our own way through life. Not our parents or family members. When I am angry I tend to be very vocal. My voice can carry for a distance. My dear mother caught it from me. She didn't talk to me for two weeks. My mothers usual way of saying am mad and leaving you be for a while.
Fine by me. However she has treated me a an adult since then. I discuss things with her more as one adult to another, than as an adult child with a parent.
How many of you have seen this? A presumable adult over the age of 21 having a discussion with his/her parent.
Parent: "I just don't see what you see in her/him? I think (s)he is so wrong for you.."
Adult child: "but I love her/him..."
If your an adult and your parent doesn't approve of your significant other. Or is concern. Ok recogize the concern. Maybe something is there or it might not be. Not I love her..
When my mother says something like that to me I ask her what don't you like about the person I am with. It's called conversation between adults. Cutting the apron strings can be difficult, but it's necessary.
There is life after cutting apron string. Though you no longer can blame your parents for your life when things go south. You made the decisions. Not them. And a big plus, when things go right. Guess who takes the credit?
Parents are going to be a part of our lives. We should cherish them and listen, but not allow them to dictate our lives as adults. They have made their live and made their mistakes and had their triumphs.
It is your time to live your life. Not your parents. But do as you want. Let someone one tell you how to live your life. Here is a question for those of you who let your parents treat you like a small child. Who is going to tell you what to do after they are gone?
Your spouse that your parents approve of? I know some "men" that let their wives dictate to them. As well as some "woman" who allow their men do the same. If that is what you want.. Well what ever floats your boat.
Personally, I want a person in my life to be a friend, confidant, lover, an equal. I need a person who can stand at my side. Not in front or behind me. I have met such a person. We have been together now for over six years.
We have an adult relationship. She knows better than to "mommy" me. Just as I wouldn't treat her as child.
It can be difficult to be an adult. But the benefits outway the negative. My advice to you is simple as it is difficult. Live your life and be who you are.
Blessed Be
Kathwynn
Blessed Be
Sunday, January 30, 2005
Thursday, January 20, 2005
Another this and that...
MM All
Well, my friend couldn't find the article on President Bush and his quest for a war on Iran. So my previous post on this will have to be the best that I can do for now. On to other things.
Check out witchvox.com for you Pagan/Wiccan types. Scroll down to the essays some of them are real good. Some of the essays address how our community at large is developing and the issues that we are all dealing with on one level or another.
Check this out. In my rant about being the broom closet, I mentioned a fundie that suddenly had went from being friendly to hating me. Yesterday she came to me and appologised. She had a song and dance about hormonal conditions.. Yedda yadda ya.. So ok I informed her that while I would not think of her with contempt. It would be a while before we could rebuild any trust between us. We'll see what happens...
later
Blessed Be
Well, my friend couldn't find the article on President Bush and his quest for a war on Iran. So my previous post on this will have to be the best that I can do for now. On to other things.
Check out witchvox.com for you Pagan/Wiccan types. Scroll down to the essays some of them are real good. Some of the essays address how our community at large is developing and the issues that we are all dealing with on one level or another.
Check this out. In my rant about being the broom closet, I mentioned a fundie that suddenly had went from being friendly to hating me. Yesterday she came to me and appologised. She had a song and dance about hormonal conditions.. Yedda yadda ya.. So ok I informed her that while I would not think of her with contempt. It would be a while before we could rebuild any trust between us. We'll see what happens...
later
Blessed Be
Tuesday, January 18, 2005
more war!!??
Merry Meet All,
A good friend at work told that our dear President Bush is thinking about going to war again. The above link will take you to an intresting article that is should put a chill into your bones. How many more countries are we going to invade? And will the British actually follow us in to Iran as well??
I lay this mess at the door of each of the people who voted for this man. This is what he was talking about during the election.. What did you people think he meant that "He would listen to every one" and "Then stay the course"?
My friend promised he would hunt up an article that talked about us going to in to Iran and that The President and the Pentagon were already laying plans for the invasion. If he does bring it in tomorrow. I'll try to post it and the url as well, probably by Thursday.
Well there it is, a man who wants to play war and keep on playing war. And people I am here to tell you that he intends to keep on killing our young people in this misguided and dangerous policy. But hey thats is what 51% percent of Americans voted for.
Good going......Proud? But then what was Sen. Kerry? To intelligent for his own good? Oh and lets not forget that the third party candidates who were effectivly kept out of the debates. Yea, we didn't want to muddy the waters with too many view points. People were confused as it was.
And now we have a sitting President planning invasions that we can neither afford, nor in the end, need to happen. Again congrats to those who voted for this person. I hope you can sleep well at night..and sadly I believe there are some who can.
Blessed Be
A good friend at work told that our dear President Bush is thinking about going to war again. The above link will take you to an intresting article that is should put a chill into your bones. How many more countries are we going to invade? And will the British actually follow us in to Iran as well??
I lay this mess at the door of each of the people who voted for this man. This is what he was talking about during the election.. What did you people think he meant that "He would listen to every one" and "Then stay the course"?
My friend promised he would hunt up an article that talked about us going to in to Iran and that The President and the Pentagon were already laying plans for the invasion. If he does bring it in tomorrow. I'll try to post it and the url as well, probably by Thursday.
Well there it is, a man who wants to play war and keep on playing war. And people I am here to tell you that he intends to keep on killing our young people in this misguided and dangerous policy. But hey thats is what 51% percent of Americans voted for.
Good going......Proud? But then what was Sen. Kerry? To intelligent for his own good? Oh and lets not forget that the third party candidates who were effectivly kept out of the debates. Yea, we didn't want to muddy the waters with too many view points. People were confused as it was.
And now we have a sitting President planning invasions that we can neither afford, nor in the end, need to happen. Again congrats to those who voted for this person. I hope you can sleep well at night..and sadly I believe there are some who can.
Blessed Be
Sunday, January 09, 2005
this and that
MM All
Between the tsunami and the insanity that reigns supreme in our nations capital was just a bit overwhelming this past week. The Mother proved who the bigger bitch was. It sure wasn't Bush. Yes it does look like that person Gonzales is going to get confirmed. This is the same person who thought that parts of the Geneva Convention had been rendered quiant in parts when dealing with terrorists detainees. That torture was fine to use on the detainees.
Newsflash we are supposed to be the good guys.. That means we play by the rules even when the rules are inconvient. It is what makes us not the bad guys. Or does that make to much sense?
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Patrick left a comment that I would like to address. His question was "and what would Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr say about this do you think?".
Yes, Rev. King would most likely say that homosexuality in itself was a sin, but I equally think that once he was shown that this was in reality a civil rights cause. I believe he would have been against any Addmenment to deny gays to a civil union.
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I wont comment on tsunami other to say that my heart and sympathy goes out to the children and the shattered families of this disaster. And yes I have donated to relief efforts.
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I will try to write again soon..
Blessed Be
Between the tsunami and the insanity that reigns supreme in our nations capital was just a bit overwhelming this past week. The Mother proved who the bigger bitch was. It sure wasn't Bush. Yes it does look like that person Gonzales is going to get confirmed. This is the same person who thought that parts of the Geneva Convention had been rendered quiant in parts when dealing with terrorists detainees. That torture was fine to use on the detainees.
Newsflash we are supposed to be the good guys.. That means we play by the rules even when the rules are inconvient. It is what makes us not the bad guys. Or does that make to much sense?
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Patrick left a comment that I would like to address. His question was "and what would Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr say about this do you think?".
Yes, Rev. King would most likely say that homosexuality in itself was a sin, but I equally think that once he was shown that this was in reality a civil rights cause. I believe he would have been against any Addmenment to deny gays to a civil union.
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I wont comment on tsunami other to say that my heart and sympathy goes out to the children and the shattered families of this disaster. And yes I have donated to relief efforts.
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I will try to write again soon..
Blessed Be
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